Archive for April, 2010
April 18, 2010
So my home life isn’t so great. I feel like I’m just taking up space. I can’t even tell my mom how I feel, any tips on how to go about letting her know what goes on in my head?
Whoa. Not quite a what’s your-favorite-color-question, is this? I think we’ve all felt like this, Charlee. You see so much drama in this world–whether on the news or in your own house. I know that sometimes it’s hard to believe that you matter. But you do. And not just because of your magic potential. Because you are a person, and every person on this planet has worth, and has the ability to touch others. In fact, the more you reach out to your family, to your friends, to other people dealing with their own issues, the more you realize your own capacity to love and BE LOVED. Nothing can make you feel more worthwhile than serving others.
As far as talking to your mom about this, well, I find it’s best to relate to someone when you are in a relatable situation. Tell your mom you’d like to have some time with her. Pick a place where you both feel comfortable and happy, maybe a favorite restaurant. Start off talking about things you both have in common–just something to get the conversation going. Then be honest with her like you have me. Tell her you don’t know how to get these feelings out, but they are there and you’d like to discuss it.
And if there is anything in your home life that is really bad, to the point you feel like another adult should know, I recommend also reaching out to a teacher or school counselor. My expertise is more limited to what shoes are hot in the new spring line, but there are adults there to protect you if you feel like you are not safe. From the tone of your note, I think this might not be the case, but thought I should mention it nonetheless.
I hope that helps. I didn’t know my mother, so I can’t speak from personal wisdom on that. But I will say I always wished for a mother, as I think that is a wonderful relationship that should be nourished.
And again, you are VERY important, Charlee. Very.
April 18, 2010
What inspired you to write stories?
Ah, this happens quite a bit. Sometimes my email gets mixed with a beautiful, talented, amazing, brilliant author named Lindsey Leavitt. I’m sure you’ve heard of her. Anyway, since I get her mail so much, she’s forwarded some responses on to me and this is actually a question she’s discussed. I’ll copy and paste it below.
Oh, and you should really read her books. Like, all of them. Did I mention she’s amazing?
You know, the easy way for me to make sense about things–about the world, about my feelings, about myself–is to write about it. And I really like to be happy. Writing does that for me. So even if no one ever read my work, I would still do it because it cheers me up, helps me gain perspective in my life. That motivates and inspires me quite a bit.
As far as where I get ideas on what to write, dude, EVERYWHERE. I have three little girls, so there is lots of princess material there. But also, reading the news or eavesdropping on conversations or naps! Some of my best ideas happen in the weird place where you are kind of awake, kind of asleep. So I HAVE to nap on the job. HAVE to.
I know. My job rocks.
Hope that helps, Arlin!
April 8, 2010
What is your favorite color?
Oh, how I adore the simplicity of this question. One look at my fabulous hair should answer this for you. Green.
Why? Because green is the color of life, darling. It’s also the color of my favorite gemstone, the jade. It’s said to draw love. Not that I’m looking for love. It’s hard to look for anything when I have so much work on my plate.
Which I should get back to right now…
April 1, 2010
*Kinda Spoilery Post*
My question is. . . why does everyone in the Amazon have MP? Are they like that because they believe in “tree spirits” or something?
Smart girl. Which agent are you under? Are you happy with her? If you ever want to switch, give me a ring. I like thinkers.
What you said is right on. When my client, Desi, travels to the Amazon, she finds that the villagers in the tribe she visits are able to see the bubble. These people live in a place far removed from the rest of civilization. They’ve not been touched by contaminants like video games and *shudder* reality TV. Also, their world is far more organic (uh, it’s the AMAZON) and they’re spiritually connected to their surroundings.
Seriously, call me if you need representation. And keep the questions coming.